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I liked the essay, a lot. I will say, in a South African context, I think it’s always important to remember that forgiveness cannot and will never happen when it comes to something like Apartheid and racial injustice, in general, especially because black people continue to suffer, immensely. The TRC both as a commission and act failed to recognise the severity of what happened to black people during the dark days of Apartheid. It focused on individuals rather than the system at large. AZAPO taking the state to the CC was a clear example of that. And the fact that the state won the case is a clear example of post-apartheid South Africa’s shortcomings in relation to democratic processes, institutions, rights and change.

For me, the AZAPO case is clear example of how black people in SA are not only continuously gaslit about our experiences but also an example of how we’re always cornered into forgiving racist people and policies in the name of a new united rainbow nation. And this forgiveness always has a sinister way of encouraging black people to forget the past, especially in the post-Apartheid era. This is precisely the problem.

Black people continue to suffer at the hands of a system that hasn’t changed many of its stripes. Until the system itself changes for the advancement of black people in all areas our lives, especially economically. I dont think forgiveness should be granted to people who clearly see nothing wrong with what they have done and to some extent-continue to do. If anything, I think the fact that some white South Africans are still okay with being racist until it’s called out, is a clear sign that A LOT of work still needs to be done. In your essay you highlighted the subjectiveness of Gouws apology, and from what I was reading, that was not an apology. There was zero accountability in that statement. He was merely acknowledging what he said and how his words may have been received by others.

I don’t think apologies matter if black people continue to suffer in a post-apartheid South Africa. Moreover, for an example, nobody expects Jewish people to forgive Nazis for the Holocaust, and rightfully so. What happened during the Holocaust was horrific (I use this as an example to illustrate my main point not to compare struggles or forms of oppression). So why expect black people to do the same. What happened in the dark days of Apartheid and even before Apartheid, permeates every facet of black existence in South Africa. 30 years into democracy and the lives of many young black people mirror those of their ancestors. Young black South Africans live lives riddled with crime, debt, lack of education, unemployment and a lack of basic necessities and assets. This must never be forgotten. Conversations about forgiveness in countries where colonialism has permanently damaged a people seem pointless to me. It is not black people’s responsibility to hold racist people accountable-that’s not fair. Forgiveness, although a beautiful idea cannot be spoken about if not followed by accountability and actual change in the lives of black people. If anything it becomes a dangerous weapon used to sooth the guilt of the oppressor for the atrocities committed against the system’s victims. Unless change comes, we must never forget. And even when change arrives we must never forget.

But that’s just my two cents. Beautiful writing by the way✨.

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